LEARNING HOW TO SAY NO.

Aaaaaand three months later, she’s back(!)

Hello people, hope you’re all doing well!

My first actual blog post is something that I have struggled with for a very long time. Learning to say no is a trait that doesn’t come all that naturally to me (people pleasers say heyyyy)! However, sometimes you need to learn to put yourself first and deal with people not liking that you’re doing so.

It comes part in parcel with trying to make people happy, but we all need to understand that sometimes it’s okay to be selfish and put you and your happiness first.

The only people who will dislike this are the ones that you don’t need in your life. These individuals are the ones who will make you feel guilty for refusing to do something and then guilt trip you into eventually doing it. Keep in mind that these people are different from the ones who dislike your decision but still understand it – those individuals are all good to keep company with.

I’m not saying you should say no to everything all the time, but if it’s something you’re 100% not keen on, why on earth do you feel obliged to say yes?

“When someone asks you to do something, swallow your instant reply and ask yourself, ‘Is this something I want to do, something I need to do or something I have to do?’ If you can’t answer ‘yes’ to any of these questions, your answer is definitely ‘no’.” – Domonique Bertolucci

The above quote is literally my mantra from now on and it should be yours too. Don’t force yourself to do anything you don’t want to, but instead focus your time on activities that you enjoy.

Peace out!

(p.s. I will post more often, promise).